3andek Matbakh??

I yearn to the time where all it took to befriend someone was a simple sentence like “momken netsa7eb?” or if you wanted to raise the bar for them a bit you would go for “3andek matbakh?”

Zaman when we were young we sort of figured early on that friendship/companionship is what we need; ,we were open, clear, and specific about it.  We were able to say yes to those whom we related to and no to those whom we didn’t.  A compromise would have been “balash matbakh, tab tea set?” I mean come on…who doesn’t have a tea set!!! An imaginary tea party would serve the purpose, break the ice, and open the hearts for life, love, and inexplicable bonds that would last for years, months, days, or even a couple of hours.  Yet I dare say genuine…for the lack of misleading, delusive, hypocrite, between the lines notions make it  easy to get to know people, let alone accepting them as they are.

Today, it takes forever to get to know someone, companionship is not a popular term; it usually entails other benefits, or not… but something gotta come out of it, or this is how you presume it would entail before even initiating a contact with someone you are interested in knowing.

I know am one of those incredibly socially challenged people; but not because I don’t like people…bel3aks, I like people as is, as genuine and authentic as they are. I don’t mind their flaws…cause simply we are all flawed. And those who think people should be perfect must really think twice, cause human beings are not meant to be flawless…they are not angels.

Today I saw a seemingly interesting person that I would have loved to get to know; yet I left and the sentence “3andek matbakh?” kept on reverberating in my mind.

Published in: on December 5, 2009 at 9:01 pm  Comments (13)  

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  1. Hello Nermeena! I am from Toronto, Canada – working on a University paper on how blogging in the Middle East has made a transformative impact on the Arab public sphere – specifically to women. I am using your blog as one of the examples, as I read about it in an article in the online journal Arab Media & Society. I am really looking forward to reviewing some of your blog posts over the past 4 years. Keep up your exceptional work – you serve to others as an excellent example of how women can really make an impact to the betterment of media and society.

  2. I was having a similar idea in mind all day 2 days ago. I mean, wouldn’t it be wonderful if getting to know people is like.. simpler? If you can actually go talk to that person you liked without awkwardness or weirdness?

  3. Hehehe or as my sister would say “tesa7beeni” 🙂 we 3ala fekra ba2a ana 3andi matbakh

  4. ana 3andi matbakh 🙂

  5. those old nice days!!!
    when i was 5 years old i was told not to befriend older kids ,while i was at the beach a girl came to me and ask me “tsahbeny” and like any obedient child i asked her whats her age,after finding she is older than me with 2 months and ten day,i declined her offer and proudly told my parents
    when they joked about it,i felt so betraied and decived
    you cant imagine

  6. Loved the post, very true.

  7. Thank you very much Lauren, that’s so sweet of you. You will find also links to other phenomenal female bloggers who have definitely contributed more than I did. Let me know if you need any help. Good luck with your paper :))

    Marooned: and I wonder, it is becoming more of a burden.

    Jessy & Mohaly: if both of you 3andoko matabekh, how come you never invited me to an imaginary tea party???

    Mohra: way too obedient 😀 sa7 yesma3 el kalam bardo!!

    Cesario: thank you 😀

  8. I hear you, you know what is even more sad is keeping the friends you already have gets difficult by time.

  9. Nerro… love your new facelift 😉 I feel that all friendships have a certain purpose in life.. and if you’re meant to be friends with that person then there will be an opportunity for you to say 3andek matbakh.. maybe the time wasn’t quite it yet 🙂

  10. I am curious…what does 3andek Matbakh translate to English?!

  11. it literally means, ‘do you have a kitchen?’ more of an imaginary kitchen set..

  12. Miya: I think if it is true friendship then it will last for as long as you and your friends want. Despite of anything.

    Amira: you think..ya3ni ana kwayesa!! thanks for answering Lauren’s question 😀

  13. Hmm .. interesting! Have never heard of that expression before. I like this post on friendship though, as I am currently involved in a friendship that I am not too sure of whether or not it will last. I guess I will soon see whether or not this is “true friendship” that I share with this person, or not.
    Thanks Amira and Nerro!

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