Tararam

– Am not sure if I ever mentioned this here…but since I like to the idea of rubbing it off anyways, fa here…I had my signed copy of Bahaa Taher’s new novel, lalalala ;p

 

Note to you: I am giving a presentation tomorrow about the recent Sexual Harassment events @ the AUC, Greek Campus @ 18:30, just in case you would like to drop by wala 7aga.

 

– I really like the new “Tararam” song, nothing deep bas I think its beauty lies in its extreme plainness. Nousha has the lyrics.

 

– Mizo my dearest friend ever 😉 told me a couple of days ago that he is kinda za3lan meni, fa we talked it and things were cool.  Yesterday, I was going to Wagih Aziz concert with friends @ the Culture Wheel, fa I text him to check if he can join w keda….then he replies eno he is going out with KS.  He gave me the name but a) I don’t know if he would like or not to disclose the identity.  b) for once ya3ni I would have a fraction of a mysterious point in my over divulged blog.  KS is a celebrity, and no he is not KS my EX-CRUSH.  This KS is younger, handsom(er), and way more sophisticated and elegant keda.  Where am I going here?? I really don’t know, I just like the idea that he knows KS, my very fertile imagination can use use this space P_R_E_T_T_Y easily 😉

 

– SMS:

M: “Lunch @ 12:15? Eurodeli?

N: Boss will kill me, I just came back from the Green Mill

M: VERY DIFFICULT TO GET HOLD OF. I GIVE UP L

 

– I forgot a very important point: a nice, easy, inspirational and must read Taranim Fi Zel Tamara by Mohamed Afifi…seriously..it is a masterpiece.

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Published in: on November 29, 2006 at 1:05 pm  Comments (25)  

The Dutchess said

“Be what you would seem to be — or, if you’d like it put more simply — Never imagine yourself not to be otherwise than what it might appear to others that what you were or might have been was not otherwise than what you had been would have appeared to them to be otherwise”.

Published in: on November 26, 2006 at 12:06 pm  Comments (18)  

IGWS Sexual Harassment Forum

The American University in Cairo

Cynthia Nelson Institute for Gender
& Womens Studies

Cordially invites you to the

IGWS Sexual Harassment Forum

Moderated by
Hind El-Hinnawy,
Graduate Student in Gender and Womens Studies
& Riham Sheble,
Graduate Student in the Department of Arabic Studies
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The West El Balad Events: An Eyewitness Account
Wael Abbas, Editor in Chief of Al-LiWa¢ Al-Misri Online

Socio-economic Interpretations of the West el Balad Events
Dr. Galal Amin, Department of Economics, AUC

The State and Sexual Harassment
Dr. Mariz Tadros, Department of Political Science, AUC

Comparing Sexual Harassment Law: France, the US and Egypt
Dr. Amr Shalakany, Department of Law, AUC
 
The Politics of Protest
Rebecca Chiao, International Relations Officer,
Egyptian Center for Women’s Rights
 
These short presentations will be followed
by an open discussion.

Monday December 4, 2006
7-9 pm
Falaki Main Stage Theatre

Published in: on November 20, 2006 at 4:10 pm  Comments (14)  

Sporadic Notes

It is a beautiful morning, one of those days that you shouldn’t waste in the office….isn’t there anything like an Employee day out?? how unfair….there should be!!

Anywayz…how is life treating me?

Pretty cool I can’t deny.  Grandma is getting better thanks God, work is fine, I missed my monthly article deadline, for a reason I wasn’t super excited about it aslan, I started writing it then lost interest. 

Speaking of losing interest, it is becoming more of a routine to me…believe it or not….I am losing interest in ideas, thoughts, things I used to do, people, etc. 

As a matter of fact, I haven’t been myself lately, unbalanced and perplexed for no reason…hey hey…there is a reason…come onnnnn…there are a few reasons that I know of but unfortunately don’t have enough guts to mention here….Anonymity has its bright side bardo.  

I started approaching the world from a different aspect, totally different from the one I’ve adobted throughout my life, not sure it is gonna work, but we are “TEEESTINNNG”…gotta admit that the previous approach proved an extreme incompetence with the world. However, I don’t think it is a big deal, isn’t all about trial and error!!! but one thing am sure of is that I will never give up.

Side Note (s): – Am kinda retaining  the keep your distance attitude…I used to be better off that way.

– I learned in the past few days that the more rude you are the more respect/admiration you get from the others…which means that some of us are practically DOOOOOOOOMED.

Enough with the notes ba2a!!  am organizing this pot luck thingie for the Business Dept and subordinates tomorrow, it is super cool, the guys are so excited, except 2 or 3, one of them is the Procurement Mgr’s assistant, she went like no, no, I won’t attend aslan, I leave early on Wednesdays, fa I said, tayeb u leave at 3 and we are having lunch 12 ish!!! fa she said things like I would rather cook for my kinds instead doing that in a pot luck here!!!! I went like, we could have ordered stuff, but we are talking different atmosphere, sharing, nice time together keda ya3ni..if you don’t want to cook, you can always buy the plastic utensils and napkins, or cokes if you want.  She noded negatively and gave me a face that I interepreted as discontented with my brilliant idea!! I really thought it is a very good idea ;D

Here is a good question, tomorrow isa her boss will probably bring her up…should I starve her ba2a or what?? 😀

Tab I go 3ashan my boss will kill me 😀

N xxx 

Published in: on November 14, 2006 at 11:02 am  Comments (11)  

The Stand: Updates

Just came a while ago, and let me tell you, we are safe “fi ayden amina”…Amn Markazi kteeeeeeeeeeeeeeeer…secuirty people kteeeeeeeeeeeer.  Ya3ni seriously I was amazed!!

Anywayz, it was really good, I think we made a clear statement.  Yet my only comment eno it came out more like a political stand although it was meant to be a social one…mesh moshkela bardo.  Will talk about that later.

Remember, this was just a first step….we still have a lot of work to do.

A few photos from the stand here, and a couple of videos

I would love to thank every single person helped out or showed interest in helping out with this event and the upcoming ones. “Malek, Bent Masreya, Rebecca, mademoiselle-hh, Hend, Lesley, Blue,  Berry, Mo, Hesham and the Sandmonkey, who deserve a separate post, begad I can’t thank him enough for the effort, time, and energy he put in this stand. 

“Forgive me ma3lesh if I forgot anyone”

N “still chasing the sun”

Published in: on November 9, 2006 at 3:24 pm  Comments (9)  

Stories!!!

These are a few samples from the info I recieved from The Egyptian Center for Women’s Right.

1. Your name (optional):

2. Your age:  26

3. Place harassment happened:  Faissal St.

4. Date and time harassment happened:  a few weeks ago (October/November 2005)

5. Who harassed you?  A man

6. About how old was he?  Late 20s or early 30

7. What happened? I am a married veiled woman. I usually dress in long wide clothes (if anyone thinks that women in tight clothes provoke and/or deserve harassment). On that day particularly I was wearing a wide dress, covering all my body and a hijab, that also covered the breast area. I was going to the supermarket (which is about 100 meters away from my house) to buy something when I felt someone walking quickly behind me. He then grabbed my underwear so severely that I thought it was torn apart, he also grabbed my butt and put his hands between my upper thighs. This all happened in a second. Shocked with what happened, I turned around and called him bad names, as loudly as possible. Unfortunately, the street was almost empty. He ran and I didn’t attempt to chase him. I went to inside the supermarket and bought the things. When I went out of the supermarket, I found him sitting on the sidewalk. I went inside the shop and told some of the guys inside that the man sitting on the sidewalk harassed me. I didn’t give details. I just pointed at him. A man from the shop went out and talked to him. I don’t know what he said to him. I left the scene and went home.

8. What was the reaction of other people around you?

9. Did you go to the police? No

10. If no, why? First, I don’t have evidence. Secondly, he can allege that I’m saying this because I’m a bad woman and I wanted to get at him.

11. If yes, what happened?

12. How did you feel after the harassment happened? I felt terrible. I wanted to cry. I felt so humiliated and shocked that this particular incident happened to me. Sadly, I got so used to verbal harassment that I no longer hear what men say when they come so close and say something bad. However, it was the first time that someone grabs me. I felt impure and violated for a period of time.

13. Did you receive any support from other people? Yes

14. If yes, how? My father and husband told me that it was his own problem and I need not wory about that. My husband was quite supportive and tried to chear me up. However, I still felt ‘unclean’ and ‘impure’.  ______________________________________________________

2. Your age:20
3. Place harassment happened:near my home, mohandeseen
4. Date and time harassment happened: about 3 yrs ago, 2002, at night about
9:00 pm
5. Who harassed you? some random guy from the street
6. About how old was he?  25-30
7. What happened? i was in high schl at the time when i used to take a private class in an education centre near my home that i only had to cross few streets. that guy used to follow me everyday & used to be very scared..he waited for me at the time when my class ends, at firs he used to follow me then day after day he tried to touched me successively, i used to walk faster or turn suddenly tats when he temporarily stop & resume after making me feel that he’s distant & that im safe.untill that day when he actually touched me & i shivered like a rabbit but i
had books in my hand & i turned & slapped him hard in the face & called him names, i was scared buti was very angry at the time that i still cant imagine how i did that..he was very expressionless & wasnt afraid of me..but after that he stopped following me & i never saw him one day after that
8. What was the reaction of other people around you? ppl in the street were only watching with no reaction at all & some men were even laghing ..& some other girls or women felt that my reaction was kind of tachy & that i shouldnt have done that!(isnt that sad)
9. Did you go to the police? no i didnt
10. If no, why?   i knew that nothing was ever to happen to rescue my dignity. & i wasnt gonna grab him & hand him to the police, & its not that unexpected  that the police men would have hit on me themselves!!!
11.If yes, what happened?
12.How did you feel after the harassment happened? i felt very unsafe  ..& i felt like i wanna throw up bcoz I was very disappointed! but since then ..shouting or cursing a guy in the street to stop himm   from being nasty is not a problem anymore..its even sth that I enjoy!! & when i do shout at some guy..they seem to be shocked that they never thought a girl would ever do that! & some seem to enjoy it..me cursing them!!
13.Did you receive any support from other people? i never told anybody
14.If yes, how?

________________________________________________________ 

I am 27 years old but would prefer to keep my name anonymous:

The incident took place about a year ago in the parking lot in Abdel Moneim Riad Square, under the 6th of Ocober Bridge. Unfortunately I do not remember the exact date but it was about 4:30 in the afternoon. I was ascending the Pedestrian Tunnel and moving into the parking lot when a police officer (‘askari) started to call out names like ‘asal at me. If that were it, there would be nothing to tell. However, the fact is that he was naked at the time, except for his underwear (kalson). Clearly, a number of security people and police personnel reside in that area of the parking lot and that is where they change their clothes and I happened to come ouf of the pedestrian tunnel, which is a publid place,  while he was in the middle of getting dressed. The sad thing is that I got harrassed by the same person who is supposed to be protecting me as a citizen. Ofcourse I did not go to the police because I was harrassed by the police. There was noone else around except his colleagues who were laughing so I couldn’t turn to anyone else for help. I don’t know what else to tell you except I felt so angry and so dissapointed in our country and our police. I thought they were there to protect us from incidents like that but I guess they forgot that their mission is to protect citizens. I wrote to Bareed Al Ahram that day but my story did not get published.

 Now if you or someone you know have been Harassed and want to report it, or willing to share your story, please go visit the ECWR Website and fill out their form and return it to ecwr@link.net.

Published in: on November 7, 2006 at 2:44 pm  Comments (9)  

Tired

I love working during the middle of the night when every body is sleeping.  I am writing an article now and gotta finish it tonight…am almost there..yet decided to blog as I haven’t really done any serious blogging for a while.  Oh, well, I am not in a mood for serious blogging as well….so…what shall I do now??

I bought myself a new notebook a couple of weeks ago and decided to start maintaining sort of a healthy relation with it instead of the computer…so why not pour my hand written thoughts here!!! Sounds like a winner.  The cover of my notebook has 3 inspiring sentences

Glow like a star

Shine like the sun

Love from all your heart

How cute is that, I loved it awi…anywayz…this post is basically  a collection of my thoughts, 3ala quotes, plus drafts in my cell phone.

 

– Do I have hidden thoughts? I like the idea of not keeping things to myself.  I just choose the best timing for revealing them.

 

– He was like a song I’d heard once in fragments but had been singing it in my mind ever since.

 

– But when the strong were too weak to hurt the weak, the weak had to be strong enough to leave.

 

– “In the grip of an insuperable longing to fall.  She lived in a constant state of Vertigo”.

 

– It is a different kind of warmth, parental without being over protective, friendly with no restraints, intimate but not nauseatingly erotic.

 

– Back to the land with time standstill.

 

– Love meant the constant expectation of a blow.

 

– “She knew of nothing more magnificent than going off into the unknown”.

 

Off with the post….doesn’t really look like a serious one 😀  Never mind… gotta go finish my article.

 

Good night…or morning!!!!

Published in: on November 4, 2006 at 3:29 am  Comments (3)  

The Stand

A “women in black” silent stand will be held next Thursday 9 November from 12-2 @ the Press Syndicate to resent the Eid Events at Downtown.

Published in: on November 1, 2006 at 12:32 pm  Comments (12)